So, one of the minor issues that we have had during the wedding planning centers around the grand idea of a sweet table. For those that cannot read into it yet, I am being very sarcastic. Personally, I do not care for the idea of a sweet table. For those of us that don't know, a sweet table is a table full of sweets that is brought out after the cake. The key for me in this equation is after the cake. For the life of me, I cannot justify the idea of having a sweet table when a cake is a sweet! Mar's mother is insistent about this detail for the sake of tradition. Her mother is Italian, which is where this tradition comes from. Anyways, it has been a bone of contention.
Maybe I am crazy, but as far as I am concerned, a sweet table is not very high on the list of necessities. As we have been planning this little party, tradition is something that has been constantly pushed to the forefront by our parents. In my opinion, we should be able to make up our own minds for our wedding. This is not to say that we will buck all tradition, but sometimes I think that our parents forget that we are two consenting adults capable of making responsible decisions. I am sure that things will get worked out, but in the meantime, don't be surprised if you hear me airing my grievances.
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John's family is extremely, extremely Italian (his mom's side), and one of my co-worders who is getting married in October is also extremely Italian and we nor them had or are having a sweets table. Honestly, I asked John and we do not EVER remember being asked if we were having cannolli's or any other sweet after the cake at our wedding. Plus, the cake is already really expensive to begin with especially for 200+ guests. One compromise may be to put any left over cake out on a table once the reception "really" starts. Good Luck you guys!! I know it can be hard. Try to remain calm through out the whole thing.
Ugh, welcome to the world of trying to plan a wedding with the "help" of your parents. Plus, when/if they start kicking in the money, then the suggestions really get going. You will probably have to remind them several times that it is your wedding, not theirs. Try not to let them get you worked up. I agree with the scientist, remaining calm is key!
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